We spend an enormous amount of energy on dates that end in disappointment and begin to doubt whether that one “right” person even exists. However, the problem is not the lack of worthy candidates but the outdated methods we use to select them.
The Illusion of Endless Choice
Technology gave us access to millions of profiles, but paradoxically, it just made the task harder. We all scroll through profiles, evaluating people as items in some kind of catalogue: height, weight, eye colour, dog presence. All this creates a false feeling of control while, in fact, we don’t pay much attention to the most important thing, personality. Even if you use the most popular dating site in Austria or some trendy app in any other country, the algorithms there are usually designed to keep your attention, not to help you build a strong family.
Visual appeal and common interests are a good start, but not a base for long-term relationships. After all, a passion for skiing will not help you decide who gets up to a crying baby at three o’clock in the morning, and beautiful eyes won’t save you from toxic arguments. In order not to waste years “testing” people who are incompatible with you, you need to shift the emphasis from external to internal factors.
Psychological Markers of Reliability
The SoulMatcher platform offers a revolutionary approach based on analysing the personality core. Instead of intuition, it uses algorithms grounded in clinical psychology.
To independently assess the prospects of a relationship (or understand why you should trust a professional algorithm), pay attention to the following critical aspects of a potential partner’s behaviour:
Reaction to stress and minor failures, which reveals their true emotional stability mechanism
The ability to show genuine empathy towards others, not just towards you, during the honeymoon phase
Conflict resolution style, specifically whether they seek a solution or just want to win the argument
Attitude towards financial planning and transparency regarding material goals and debts; Level of narcissism and the need for constant external validation to feel confident
Openness to personal growth and the ability to admit mistakes without aggression or defensive behavior
Alignment of fundamental life values regarding family model, parenting, and personal freedom.
Each of these points is a brick in the wall of your future home. Ignoring even one of them can lead to a crack in the entire foundation.
Tools for Deep Analysis
The good news is, today, nobody needs to have the necessary certification as a psychologist to really understand people. That is taken care of by today’s services. With the PsyX system, the computer program will immediately check the psychological profile according to the «Narcissism, Empathy, Borderline Traits» triad to give an accurate forecast on the compatibility of the contacts. Time-saving as well as stress-saving.
To make your search as effective as possible, use this simple algorithm:
A comprehensive psychological evaluation, honestly, to understand your own triggers
Ask your friends to validate your profile based on outside measures to help remove subjective bias
Apply AI-based dating app recommendations to screen out a potential toxic personality before a couple goes on a first date.
Furthermore, the process will usually open your eyes to your behavioural patterns that were holding you back all along.
An Investment in a Peaceful Tomorrow
Dating more consciously means having the courage to give up superficial criteria. Thus, trusting science and common sense, you are not hostage to coincidence anymore. Building a relationship with a person who fits you psychologically means choosing not to have unnecessary drama in your life, but all mutual understanding and support.